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I have a best friend for two years now. We are in the same course, and we are classmates. Actually, I've known him for 5 to 6 years na din pero these past years lang kami naging bff. A few months ago, his best friend told me that he likes me and begged me to pretend not to know. At first, I thought it was just a prank, so I went along with it. However, as time passed, I started to notice some signs of my boy bestfriend's affection, but I acted like i don't know anything. I did my best to kept pretending that I didn't know about his feelings for me. Today, while we were chatting online, he unexpectedly confessed his feelings to me, and I was caught off guard. I had been pretending to keep our friendship, but now that he had confessed, I didn't know what to do.
He asked me not to tell his best friend, but I couldn't keep it to myself. I called his best friend to ask for advice, but I realized that he was with him. I had to act quickly to change the topic and pretend that nothing was wrong. Later on, my best friend asked me why I was talking to his best friend, and I told him the truth. He then asked if he could court me, and I was scared. He told me that he will wait and some cringe stuffs. I didn't want to give him an answer right away, so I didn't open his message until now.
I have to admit that I had some feelings for him because when he ignored me for weeks, it made me uncomfortable and worried. I thought I might have done something wrong and confronted him with long messages, asking for forgiveness. He told me that he was just depressed, but now he confessed that he lied to me and ignored me because he likes me and don't know what to do. I feel awkward and guilty because I've known this for a while, but I was hoping he wouldn't confess.
To be honest, I don't think I'm ready for a relationship right now, especially since he's my classmate and best friend. I've had past breakups and am still dealing with the trauma from those experiences. All of my previous relationships were long-distance because I preferred it that way, but now it's different because he's so near. It's putting many relationships at risk, including our friendship.
In addition, my parents are strict, and my previous relationships were a secret. I did confess to them, and they were okay with it, but they warned me not to do it again. I feel like he deserves someone better than me, especially since this is his first relationship. I don't want to hurt him, but I also don't want to lead him on. It's a difficult situation, and I need time to figure things out.
All in all, it's been a rollercoaster of emotions, and I'm not sure what to do. On the one hand, I don't want to ruin our friendship, but on the other hand, I don't want to lead him on. I want to reject him but at the same time I feel that I will regret this. It's a tough situation, and I need your advices. What to do? Gulo ko pala.
UPDATE: Thank you for your advices. I decided to confront him and reject him in a good way. I also told him the factors that lead me to this decision: our age, my parent's expectations, my past traumas, and our goals. He actually accepted it calmly and said na he is willing to wait until that time. Thankfully, we stayed as bestfriends and our friendship wasn't destroyed. I might regret this in the future, but I believe that this is the most logical decision because we are still too young and unstable. Anyways, I don't know what our future holds, but I'm happy with this outcome.
He asked me not to tell his best friend, but I couldn't keep it to myself. I called his best friend to ask for advice, but I realized that he was with him. I had to act quickly to change the topic and pretend that nothing was wrong. Later on, my best friend asked me why I was talking to his best friend, and I told him the truth. He then asked if he could court me, and I was scared. He told me that he will wait and some cringe stuffs. I didn't want to give him an answer right away, so I didn't open his message until now.
I have to admit that I had some feelings for him because when he ignored me for weeks, it made me uncomfortable and worried. I thought I might have done something wrong and confronted him with long messages, asking for forgiveness. He told me that he was just depressed, but now he confessed that he lied to me and ignored me because he likes me and don't know what to do. I feel awkward and guilty because I've known this for a while, but I was hoping he wouldn't confess.
To be honest, I don't think I'm ready for a relationship right now, especially since he's my classmate and best friend. I've had past breakups and am still dealing with the trauma from those experiences. All of my previous relationships were long-distance because I preferred it that way, but now it's different because he's so near. It's putting many relationships at risk, including our friendship.
In addition, my parents are strict, and my previous relationships were a secret. I did confess to them, and they were okay with it, but they warned me not to do it again. I feel like he deserves someone better than me, especially since this is his first relationship. I don't want to hurt him, but I also don't want to lead him on. It's a difficult situation, and I need time to figure things out.
All in all, it's been a rollercoaster of emotions, and I'm not sure what to do. On the one hand, I don't want to ruin our friendship, but on the other hand, I don't want to lead him on. I want to reject him but at the same time I feel that I will regret this. It's a tough situation, and I need your advices. What to do? Gulo ko pala.
UPDATE: Thank you for your advices. I decided to confront him and reject him in a good way. I also told him the factors that lead me to this decision: our age, my parent's expectations, my past traumas, and our goals. He actually accepted it calmly and said na he is willing to wait until that time. Thankfully, we stayed as bestfriends and our friendship wasn't destroyed. I might regret this in the future, but I believe that this is the most logical decision because we are still too young and unstable. Anyways, I don't know what our future holds, but I'm happy with this outcome.
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