Most of your problems as an ãdül† come from the fact that you didn’t learn certain things correctly as a child. Here are five things you must learn in your family—whether biological or otherwise: 1. You learn what to do with feelings; 2. You learn how to handle conflict; 3. You learn how to handle loss; 4. You learn which values matter most; 5. You learn good habits. Habits determine your character. Start to make changes today so that your family—whether it’s biological, adoptive, or spiritual—is a safe place for everyone to learn and grow.