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Just sharing some of the lines i've read and honestly whether online or in real life it always a big no for this type of a friends behavior ,it mostly turn me off.I usually do fair treatment towards my friends but upon knowing some toxic behavior it's much nicer to distant from them in some ways.
1.Your friend tries to isolate you from other relationships in your life, perhaps by badmouthing romantic partners or other friends.
2. New acquaintances who seem to claim too much of your time or share too much personal information too soon.
3.Friends who complain that you are not available enough, active enough, or understanding enough. (When a friend raises too many complaints about your shortcomings, make sure that relationship is short-lived.)
4.When they try to own you.
Do you endure guilt when you meet with other people rather than with that specific friend? Are you being persuaded not to keep them in your life? Then we might be dealing with a case of a jealous fellow who guilt-trips you into isolating yourself from other relationships.A toxic person shifts blame and tries to put a wedge between you and your existing friendships. "They are extremely jealous of your friends and will even go so far as to tell you you're their only friend, and you're the only person they care about," said psychologist and therapist Perpetua Neo, "even if you're on a date they expect you to drop everything for them.
Instead: Keep an eye out for those who provide a safe space to be yourself — it is as simple as that. And to find those people, try not to adjust to everyone to the extent of becoming a whole different person. Alternatively, when you meet someone new, act like yourself right off the bat without putting on a show and see how they respond to that. If your energy matches, it’s a win-win.
Ask yourself what really holds the two of you together. Is it a sense of duty? Perhaps, guilt or a force of habit? If it is anything else except simply enjoying the company of that person, that’s some food for thought.
Instead: Life is too short to have friends whom you don’t genuinely like. You deserve a like-minded companion to await your time together with pleasure and spend it accordingly.
7. They Don't respect your boundaries
Mutual respect is a necessary foundation for a healthy relationship. Sometimes friends consider it a sign of closeness to ignore your boundaries when in reality they are taking advantage of you. Maybe your friend pressures you to go out when you’re trying to relax and rest or they borrow your clothes and jewelry without asking. It may seem that they consider it a badge of honor to be close enough to you to access your time and things, but at the end of the day, you feel disrespected, unheard, and uncared for.
8.When they are trying to change you
While it’s important to share things in common, friendships thrive when two people are able to express and celebrate each other’s differences. If you’re in a toxic relationship, your friend might be asking you to be someone you’re not. They may recognize the things you dislike and put you in uncomfortable situations or they may ask you to talk, dress, or behave differently. While it’s important for friends to lovingly challenge each other and encourage each other to stop potential harmful behaviors, it becomes harmful when they are pressuring you to compromise your character.
9.They're always drama
The most noteworthy sign of a toxic relationship is when an individual incites drama wherever they go. When they’re around, there’s always chaos, either because they're always arguing with someone and causing problems, or because unbelievable things keep happening to them.
10. It's all about them and their problems
Look out for a friend who only comes around when things are going well with them or they need something from you, like advice. They may call you for a full hour to talk about their problems, then throw out a half-hearted “how are you?” before immediately turning the conversation back to themselves.
excerpt and paraphrase from psychologytoday/ thesource/Hheadway
1.Your friend tries to isolate you from other relationships in your life, perhaps by badmouthing romantic partners or other friends.
2. New acquaintances who seem to claim too much of your time or share too much personal information too soon.
3.Friends who complain that you are not available enough, active enough, or understanding enough. (When a friend raises too many complaints about your shortcomings, make sure that relationship is short-lived.)
4.When they try to own you.
Do you endure guilt when you meet with other people rather than with that specific friend? Are you being persuaded not to keep them in your life? Then we might be dealing with a case of a jealous fellow who guilt-trips you into isolating yourself from other relationships.A toxic person shifts blame and tries to put a wedge between you and your existing friendships. "They are extremely jealous of your friends and will even go so far as to tell you you're their only friend, and you're the only person they care about," said psychologist and therapist Perpetua Neo, "even if you're on a date they expect you to drop everything for them.
5. You're walking on eggshells around them.It is normal to be mindful about what to say to your mates, not to hurt their feelings. However, if it is almost impossible to avoid that intolerant friend making a scene out of any mundane situation, there goes your red flag. Continuous tiptoeing leads to constant tension and the inability to let your guard down.Instead: Keep an eye out for those who provide a safe space to be yourself — it is as simple as that. And to find those people, try not to adjust to everyone to the extent of becoming a whole different person. Alternatively, when you meet someone new, act like yourself right off the bat without putting on a show and see how they respond to that. If your energy matches, it’s a win-win.
6. When you have to justify your friendship to others.Do other people seem overly confused about why you’re friends with that person? Do you keep making weak excuses for your friendship? Another red flag.Ask yourself what really holds the two of you together. Is it a sense of duty? Perhaps, guilt or a force of habit? If it is anything else except simply enjoying the company of that person, that’s some food for thought.
Instead: Life is too short to have friends whom you don’t genuinely like. You deserve a like-minded companion to await your time together with pleasure and spend it accordingly.
7. They Don't respect your boundaries
Mutual respect is a necessary foundation for a healthy relationship. Sometimes friends consider it a sign of closeness to ignore your boundaries when in reality they are taking advantage of you. Maybe your friend pressures you to go out when you’re trying to relax and rest or they borrow your clothes and jewelry without asking. It may seem that they consider it a badge of honor to be close enough to you to access your time and things, but at the end of the day, you feel disrespected, unheard, and uncared for.
8.When they are trying to change you
While it’s important to share things in common, friendships thrive when two people are able to express and celebrate each other’s differences. If you’re in a toxic relationship, your friend might be asking you to be someone you’re not. They may recognize the things you dislike and put you in uncomfortable situations or they may ask you to talk, dress, or behave differently. While it’s important for friends to lovingly challenge each other and encourage each other to stop potential harmful behaviors, it becomes harmful when they are pressuring you to compromise your character.
9.They're always drama
The most noteworthy sign of a toxic relationship is when an individual incites drama wherever they go. When they’re around, there’s always chaos, either because they're always arguing with someone and causing problems, or because unbelievable things keep happening to them.
10. It's all about them and their problems
Look out for a friend who only comes around when things are going well with them or they need something from you, like advice. They may call you for a full hour to talk about their problems, then throw out a half-hearted “how are you?” before immediately turning the conversation back to themselves.
excerpt and paraphrase from psychologytoday/ thesource/Hheadway
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