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Since nakita akong post about love, gusto ko din magshare.

It was my first time to enter in a relationship, all my ideas about love were all clouded by the movies and teleseryes I often watch. Then there is this guy, childhood friend of my bestfriend. He added me on facebook then we started talking, blah blah blah. Fast forward we met each other, ligawan, first dates, and all sorts of sweet nothings.

We were so fine at first. I guess ganun naman ata talaga sa una. Before, we make it a point to see each other atleast once a week. He's busy with his work, so am I and we don't mind if we don't see each other everyday kasi taga Makati siya ako sa Parañaque pa. Yes I know ang lapit lang diba haha. Until such time, after 2 weeks nlang ulit kami magkikita, then after that 3 weeks, worst is 1 month, di kami nagkikita yet we update each other through text. Pero, yung update through text ganun din yung nangyari. There was even a time na 1 week walang paramdam tapos pag nagmessage siya it's as if wala siyang ginawang kasalanan. Ako pa nga yung laging napunta sa Makati, instead of him going near my location. There was even a time na 2 months siyang hindi nagpakita at nagparamdam sakin. When I asked him why, he said he became addicted sa sugal. :( Pero tinanggap ko pa din siya nung nagkita ulit kami, hindi na rin naman siya nagsusugal ngayon. :( I could have walked away that time and I know that it is my winning moment but I refused to do so :(

I keep up with him, nasanay na ako na ganun siya: hindi siya sweet as in, hindi siya clingy, hind siya maupdate :( Pero diba hindi dapat ganun? Communication should be constant. Naguguluhan ako kasi when we are together, we are okay, walang problema pero kapag magkahiwalay na kami dun na lumalabas yung issues. Nagiging okay kami for awhile pero after sometime, bumabalik na naman sa dati, walang paramdam :( Lagi niyang sinasabi na busy siya sa work :(

Ps. Oo alam ko na, shunga ako haha hay
 
Then check kung totoong busy sya, there's no perfect relationship anyway.

Kahit minsan lang kayo magkausap, as long as alam nyong nagmamahalan kayo at kayo lang dalawa, buuin mo yung trust doon. Kasi sa isang relationship hindi naman pwedeng ikaw lagi ang priority, hindi pa ikaw ang mundo nya, at nauna yun bago mo sya nakilala and then, kung ganoon na talaga sya before mo nakilala, wag na po magtaka
 
I would often say this to myself na hindi ako yung mundo niya. Yes I know and I understand that pero diba if he has gotten missed calls in his phone, siguro naman after being busy, he should be asking what might be wrong, kaso wala talaga akong naririnig skanya :(
 
Then check kung totoong busy sya, there's no perfect relationship anyway.

Kahit minsan lang kayo magkausap, as long as alam nyong nagmamahalan kayo at kayo lang dalawa, buuin mo yung trust doon. Kasi sa isang relationship hindi naman pwedeng ikaw lagi ang priority, hindi pa ikaw ang mundo nya, at nauna yun bago mo sya nakilala and then, kung ganoon na talaga sya before mo nakilala, wag na po magtaka

Thank you for this advice.
 
I would often say this to myself na hindi ako yung mundo niya. Yes I know and I understand that pero diba if he has gotten missed calls in his phone, siguro naman after being busy, he should be asking what might be wrong, kaso wala talaga akong naririnig skanya :(
Then let him realize that, as a girlfriend, may karapatan kang magtampo, or magsabi sa kanya ng saloobin mo. Baka kasi hindi ka kumikibo kaya nananatiling ganyan ang scenario nyo.
Simple logic: kapag may hindi maintindihan, magtanong
Kapag may mali sasabihin para maitama
At kapag malamig, painitin
 
baka naman genuinely busy sya talaga sa trabaho...?
ano ba ideals mo sa communication? kada may gawin itetext sa yo?

tandaan mo ang mga lalaki e may ibat ibang personality yan...
at boyfriend mo sya... di mo sya pagaari...

Yes, he is genuinely busy.
Hindi naman po ganun yung ideal communication ko. Actually kahit isang message lang sa isang araw, okay na ako dun e.

When it comes to the matters of personality, I am trying to deal with that. Naging pampalubag loob ko na nga yung sabihin na "ay ganyan talaga siya" perhaps that's how he is but I don't know if I can deal with it in the long term.
 
Huwag ka lang magsawa na sabihin kung gaano mo siya kamahal, na may taong nagmamahal at naghihintay sa kanya. Baka kasi hinahantay niya lang din iyon mula sa iyo ts
 
Then let him realize that, as a girlfriend, may karapatan kang magtampo, or magsabi sa kanya ng saloobin mo. Baka kasi hindi ka kumikibo kaya nananatiling ganyan ang scenario nyo.
Simple logic: kapag may hindi maintindihan, magtanong
Kapag may mali sasabihin para maitama
At kapag malamig, painitin

Thank you for uttering the words I needed to hear right now. God bless your heart :)
 
Sad to hear and read these words coming out from you, bes. I've never been in a relationship, so I cannot give you the best advice that you needed bes but for me, of course you have the rights to complain on your boyfriend. Yes I know, he's not you owned him rather he has a responsibility to you because you are his girlfriend, but I think if those words that you have said in here are true, then you need to straight forward to talk to him, tell him how you feel and ask him if he wants to continue your relationship with you (it's not weird or make you feel loser), you don't deserve to be treated like this, bes. But I guess, if he is truly busy with his work and he loves you? No more alibis, he will do everything just to see you and make you happy. :) Kahirap talagang magkajowa, I am really scared. :)
 
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