The man who can't be moved

[leemarcdaniel]

Its already 2:00AM but..
Days, weeks has been past but i should already accept the reality/fact pero i still got this feeling na I can't move on im staying and i dont know why, yes isa akong martyr at isang malaking T.

We're back on chatting again and things to be clear out. I need to let go and erase What i saw past days and what i found out to her.
She unsent a message that i already seen containing "I miss you, sorry sa nagawa at nasabi ko ang gulo lang tlga ng isip ko this days" pero hindi ko pinansin dahil nasa denial stage na ako ng pag move-on, unfollowed, restricted msg, delete convos pero i still keep chasing her di ko mapiligilan kinamusta ko siya if she's still okay pero "hindi daw"
She feel so sorry, gusto niya ayusin relasyon namin because of what she did past weeks resulting negativity on our relationship pero hindi niya alam paano siya babawi sakin. Hayaan mong ako umayos ng relasyon natin kasi ako ang nagkamali this time.
Ayoko ng makaramdam that time dahil down na down na ako, pain, disappoinments, sadness pero it keeps going on my mind na im staying, i will keep going to fix these mess, set a side yung mga nangyari at sabi ko sa sarili ko na i can do this once again, iniisip ko nalang na either i let go all of these or not its the same pain at mas malala pa kung wala akong gagawing actions.
May magandang result or wala yung naging move ko its just the same results which is regret for the rest of my life.
I should be prepared baka pinaasa niya lang ako, baka she's still using me but then bahala na.
I will use this feelings if will turn out to be good edi good kase yung feelings ko gagaan na but kung it will turn out very bad atleast yung feelings na to mauubos nalang.

We're communicating each other, she's Still busy on her daily work so ako pa rin yung nahihirapan kase para akong ***** nag aantay but im trying to understand her.
If she want to fix it, she should do her move right? Masakit pa rin sakin kase alam natin if you really love the person do the move. Pero wala eto ako umaasa..
So i finally ask her if she's still love me, if meron pang feelings pero hindi nagreply, naka restrict din ako I think.
I ask her na kase di ko na alam saan ako lulugar even sabi nasabi niya na she miss me , she's guilty on what happen what she did.

Everytime na iisipin ko na i can do this, there's still a last chance gumagaan yung pakiramdam ko pero once na di ulit siya nagrereply inatake ulit ako ng lungkot kase parang walang nangyayaring actions galing sakanya naeewan ulit ako.
Hopefully mahal pa rin niya ako kase kung sabihin nyang hindi magiging magulo na isipan ko.
Mas gusto ko atang kaharapin yung mismong pain para matapos na. Para makita ko yung acceptance.
Whatever happen, it will happen.

 

[daniel_seven]

Kaya mo po yan

 

[beancentius]

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[ZummerSoltice]

mahirap na balikan kung ung relasyon nyo may gap na dahil sa di inaasahang pangyayari

 

[cirilo143]

well i guess, depende yan sa anong klaseng kasalan ang ginawa niya.. di ko kasi alam yung pulo't dulo ng nangyari sa inyo. try mo weigh things up. yung kasalan ba niya or yung pagmamahal mo. ilang beses niya nang ginawa parang ganun. try to elaborate things here para maintindihan namin. we're trying to help you.

 

[leemarcdaniel]

well i guess, depende yan sa anong klaseng kasalan ang ginawa niya.. di ko kasi alam yung pulo't dulo ng nangyari sa inyo. try mo weigh things up. yung kasalan ba niya or yung pagmamahal mo. ilang beses niya nang ginawa parang ganun. try to elaborate things here para maintindihan namin. we're trying to help you.

Kahit ako hindi ko rin alam ang puno't dulo bakit bigla siyang naging ganito.
All i know before mangyari to is we're happy, fine, may goal kami sa birthday ko, work hard and daily routine but suddenly humingi siya ng space 1 month ago already kase daw ini-invalidate ko na daw yung feelings nya gusto nya huminga at ayusin sarili niya.

1 month ago stress na siya dahil work + lenten practice + naospital tatay nya siya nagbantay + na ospital din nanay nya siya nag bantay.
More than 1 month na siyang di umuuwi.

Lately I found a notebook of her containing a name of guy na mina-manifest nya which is i remember this guy also the reason bakit kami nag break-up, kung anong lamig nya noon, naulit lang ngayon and this time i don't have any idea whats wrong.
Btw ako nakipag break before, ako din nakipagbalikan mahal ko e.
There's also red flag na nakita ko nung nagbalikan kami pero tinanggap ko lahat yon as long as naging ok na kami.

Now, since nanlalamig siya 1 month ago na, 1month na din kaming walang magandang communication and di ko alam when to move, when to act.
I talk to her once for clarification the guy, her reason and anong nangyayari.
Sabi nya na gusto nya daw ayusin tong relasyon namin, sorry siya ng sorry and hayaan ko daw na siya mismo na ang magayos nito. To shorten for what is happening now is guilty siya sa nagawa nya at nasabi nya sakin these past weeks.

Okay its fine again, the guy last breakup ok lang sakin hindi daw naging sila, iniwasan na nya yon matagal na, what is happening today ok lang saken at hindi ko alam bakit sakin ok lang?
Since nagkaroon kmi ulit ng convo, nag try ako na magaya for date(dinner) para magkita na kami pero too many reasons for two consecutive days dahil sa work nya at late na daw siya nakakauwe.

Hindi ako masamang tao pero kung may feelings pa siya saken base on what she said, bakit di ko maramdaman yung efforts? Or kahit na sa convo lang na ibalik namin yung dating sweetness at updates sa isat isa kung busy pa rin siya.

Since wala kong makitang chance at all , tried asking her kung mahal niya pa rin ako since may convo na ulit kami kahit napakakonti lang pero half day past hindi siya nag seen it ended up na nag unsent ako, it feels like pinagpipilitan ko ba sarili ko at di ko alam saan ako lulugar at ano kami ngayon?

Until this time nakita nya na inunsent ko yung msg pero seen lang walang chat.
Pinipigilan ko na rin na mag chat ulit kase di ko na rin tlga alam.

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

Don't beat yourself down too much for being "martyr" or "tângâ"?

This are just negative terms we use for unreciprocated love... but it is still love. Diba nga, love is more about what you can give and not about what you recieve.

Giving is not necessarily about sacrificing. It could be as simple as giving them the totality ng pagkatao mo.

Mejo lason na kasi ang isip natin sa maling kultura about love kung saan msyado tayong busy kakahanap ng red flags and deal-breaker... we forget why we went into the relationship in the first place. Msyadong maraming inaccurate online ang magtutulak satin to refuse to grow up in terms of relationships.

Walang mali sa gingawa mo..

Pero syempre, also consider, ano nga ba talaga magpapasaya sakanya? If at one point you are going to give up, don't let it be because of your selfish reasons... question yourself kung naaapreciate p nga ba nya yung next move mo. Pointless na kasi kung masasaktan ka lang, then if it was up to her, she would choose na hindi mo ginawa ung move mo.

 

[cirilo143]

Kahit ako hindi ko rin alam ang puno't dulo bakit bigla siyang naging ganito.
All i know before mangyari to is we're happy, fine, may goal kami sa birthday ko, work hard and daily routine but suddenly humingi siya ng space 1 month ago already kase daw ini-invalidate ko na daw yung feelings nya gusto nya huminga at ayusin sarili niya.

1 month ago stress na siya dahil work + lenten practice + naospital tatay nya siya nagbantay + na ospital din nanay nya siya nag bantay.
More than 1 month na siyang di umuuwi.

Lately I found a notebook of her containing a name of guy na mina-manifest nya which is i remember this guy also the reason bakit kami nag break-up, kung anong lamig nya noon, naulit lang ngayon and this time i don't have any idea whats wrong.
Btw ako nakipag break before, ako din nakipagbalikan mahal ko e.
There's also red flag na nakita ko nung nagbalikan kami pero tinanggap ko lahat yon as long as naging ok na kami.

Now, since nanlalamig siya 1 month ago na, 1month na din kaming walang magandang communication and di ko alam when to move, when to act.
I talk to her once for clarification the guy, her reason and anong nangyayari.
Sabi nya na gusto nya daw ayusin tong relasyon namin, sorry siya ng sorry and hayaan ko daw na siya mismo na ang magayos nito. To shorten for what is happening now is guilty siya sa nagawa nya at nasabi nya sakin these past weeks.

Okay its fine again, the guy last breakup ok lang sakin hindi daw naging sila, iniwasan na nya yon matagal na, what is happening today ok lang saken at hindi ko alam bakit sakin ok lang?
Since nagkaroon kmi ulit ng convo, nag try ako na magaya for date(dinner) para magkita na kami pero too many reasons for two consecutive days dahil sa work nya at late na daw siya nakakauwe.

Hindi ako masamang tao pero kung may feelings pa siya saken base on what she said, bakit di ko maramdaman yung efforts? Or kahit na sa convo lang na ibalik namin yung dating sweetness at updates sa isat isa kung busy pa rin siya.

Since wala kong makitang chance at all , tried asking her kung mahal niya pa rin ako since may convo na ulit kami kahit napakakonti lang pero half day past hindi siya nag seen it ended up na nag unsent ako, it feels like pinagpipilitan ko ba sarili ko at di ko alam saan ako lulugar at ano kami ngayon?

Until this time nakita nya na inunsent ko yung msg pero seen lang walang chat.
Pinipigilan ko na rin na mag chat ulit kase di ko na rin tlga alam.

Try to contest your feelings towards her kung hanggang saan ang kaya mo, pero not to the part na ibuhos mo ang lahat magtira ka para sa sarili mo. now there are couple of questions i would like to ask.

1. bakit niya nasabi na ini-invalidate mo ang feelings niya?
2.. nannghingi ka ba ng attentions sa kanya during that stressful situation?
3. what did you do sa time na yun? as for me, kung nanghihingi siya ng space kasi sa pagkadahilanang ito:

work + lenten practice + naospital tatay nya siya nagbantay + na ospital din nanay nya siya nag bantay.

i would try to carry part of her burden. suggest things like ano need ko gawin ? susunduin kita sa work ? sabay tayo pupunta sa ospital bantayan magulang mo ? like ganun.
as for the guy, na nasa notebook niya it would mean she's trying to find something or someone to comfort herself to not think of stressful thing like the situation of your relationship.
you should know by now of what kind of girl she is based on what she did..
she's the kind of girl na if she has a lot on her plate, she will weigh thing ups of what 's inside of it.
and then try to remove it. it's not attitude its maturity. it's not because she's not in love with you, wrong timing lang.


Eto suggestions ko:
1. hindi kayo mag girlfriend/boyfriend online -- meron kayong real life na situation .. wag kayong umasa sa messenger .. puntahan mo sa bahay nila pag usapan niyo ng maigi.
napansnin ko eh yung communication niyo. "may unsent messages",
kulang kayo ng quality time yung face-to-face conversation. hindi naman siguro kayoo LDR.
( I will wait for this to happen) It would be pointless to help you forward kung wala to, kasi walang progress yung situation niyo.) wag ka maghintay ma seen yung messages mo.
2. Try to think bakit mo na describe sarili mo na the man who can't be moved..
" dahil ba hindi mo nagawa ang lahat ? or Huli na ba ang lahat."

 

[leemarcdaniel]

Try to contest your feelings towards her kung hanggang saan ang kaya mo, pero not to the part na ibuhos mo ang lahat magtira ka para sa sarili mo. now there are couple of questions i would like to ask.

1. bakit niya nasabi na ini-invalidate mo ang feelings niya?
2.. nannghingi ka ba ng attentions sa kanya during that stressful situation?
3. what did you do sa time na yun? as for me, kung nanghihingi siya ng space kasi sa pagkadahilanang ito:

i would try to carry part of her burden. suggest things like ano need ko gawin ? susunduin kita sa work ? sabay tayo pupunta sa ospital bantayan magulang mo ? like ganun.
as for the guy, na nasa notebook niya it would mean she's trying to find something or someone to comfort herself to not think of stressful thing like the situation of your relationship.
you should know by now of what kind of girl she is based on what she did..
she's the kind of girl na if she has a lot on her plate, she will weigh thing ups of what 's inside of it.
and then try to remove it. it's not attitude its maturity. it's not because she's not in love with you, wrong timing lang.


Eto suggestions ko:
1. hindi kayo mag girlfriend/boyfriend online -- meron kayong real life na situation .. wag kayong umasa sa messenger .. puntahan mo sa bahay nila pag usapan niyo ng maigi.
napansnin ko eh yung communication niyo. "may unsent messages",
kulang kayo ng quality time yung face-to-face conversation. hindi naman siguro kayoo LDR.
( I will wait for this to happen) It would be pointless to help you forward kung wala to, kasi walang progress yung situation niyo.) wag ka maghintay ma seen yung messages mo.
2. Try to think bakit mo na describe sarili mo na the man who can't be moved..
" dahil ba hindi mo nagawa ang lahat ? or Huli na ba ang lahat."

1. bakit niya nasabi na ini-invalidate mo ang feelings niya?
2.. nannghingi ka ba ng attentions sa kanya during that stressful situation?
3. what did you do sa time na yun? as for me, kung nanghihingi siya ng space kasi sa pagkadahilanang ito:

I think and i guess ininvalidate ko feelings nya not just when it happen this thing, long time ago na everytime and i admitted that. Pero not intentionally. I can't figure out kung ano saan ko siya na invalidate pero admitted ko na may pagkakamali ako everytime na may pakiramdam ako na "parang ako yung nasasaktan" everytime.

And yes there's was a time na umuwi na siya finally after the whole month busy ng march and politely ask her with tampo na "bakit ngayon ka lang, hindi mo naba ako naisip or kami?"
Then she cried, dagdag stress na daw ako at maghiwalay nalang kami.
Gusto kong sabihin sa sarili ko na teka ngayon ka lang umuwi after all of these situations na walang magandang comms, walang tamlay yun relasyon natin and deserve ko rin ba na maging concern at magtanong? Kase ako yung naiwan magisa.
Then after that humingi na sya ng space gusto nya daw ayusin sarili niya etc..


We both know 1 month kaming parang single status, we know na may problema bakit di kami magusap at maayos.
Kahit na alam kong may problema at hindi na kami nagkikita that month kinakamusta ko pa rin siya like normal days normal routine like kung may maitutulong ba ako regarding sa stress nya kahit na hindi na siya nag seen.
Mag seen lang at reply random time whenever she like it to.
Pero kahit na alam kong may ganong situation tuloy tuloy pa rin comms ko sakanya, until she ask for space.


Actually ako ang hatid sundo sakanya everytime. Except sa workplace nya but its okay, di ko alam ano reason sa part na yan.
Also limited support lang maibibigay ko sakanya that time na stress siya dahil nag break kami last year, binalikan ko pero never na nyang pinaalam sa family niya na nagbalikan ulit kami. Tinago na niya lang and its fine for me.

The guy or someone na nasa note yan yung guy dahilan din ng pagka break namin last year. Yung note last year pa nya sinulat yon pero nakatago lang.
But its fine, she explained it bakit ganyan ganito yung note na yan.

Try to contest your feelings towards her kung hanggang saan ang kaya mo, pero not to the part na ibuhos mo ang lahat magtira ka para sa sarili mo. now there are couple of questions i would like to ask.

1. bakit niya nasabi na ini-invalidate mo ang feelings niya?
2.. nannghingi ka ba ng attentions sa kanya during that stressful situation?
3. what did you do sa time na yun? as for me, kung nanghihingi siya ng space kasi sa pagkadahilanang ito:

i would try to carry part of her burden. suggest things like ano need ko gawin ? susunduin kita sa work ? sabay tayo pupunta sa ospital bantayan magulang mo ? like ganun.
as for the guy, na nasa notebook niya it would mean she's trying to find something or someone to comfort herself to not think of stressful thing like the situation of your relationship.
you should know by now of what kind of girl she is based on what she did..
she's the kind of girl na if she has a lot on her plate, she will weigh thing ups of what 's inside of it.
and then try to remove it. it's not attitude its maturity. it's not because she's not in love with you, wrong timing lang.


Eto suggestions ko:
1. hindi kayo mag girlfriend/boyfriend online -- meron kayong real life na situation .. wag kayong umasa sa messenger .. puntahan mo sa bahay nila pag usapan niyo ng maigi.
napansnin ko eh yung communication niyo. "may unsent messages",
kulang kayo ng quality time yung face-to-face conversation. hindi naman siguro kayoo LDR.
( I will wait for this to happen) It would be pointless to help you forward kung wala to, kasi walang progress yung situation niyo.) wag ka maghintay ma seen yung messages mo.
2. Try to think bakit mo na describe sarili mo na the man who can't be moved..
" dahil ba hindi mo nagawa ang lahat ? or Huli na ba ang lahat."

Eto suggestions ko:

1. hindi kayo mag girlfriend/boyfriend online -- meron kayong real life na situation .. wag kayong umasa sa messenger .. puntahan mo sa bahay nila pag usapan niyo ng maigi.

napansnin ko eh yung communication niyo. "may unsent messages",

kulang kayo ng quality time yung face-to-face conversation. hindi naman siguro kayoo LDR.

( I will wait for this to happen) It would be pointless to help you forward kung wala to, kasi walang progress yung situation niyo.) wag ka maghintay ma seen yung messages mo.

2. Try to think bakit mo na describe sarili mo na the man who can't be moved..

" dahil ba hindi mo nagawa ang lahat ? or Huli na ba ang lahat."

The man who can't be move i think kasi dapat tuwing may feelings na nasasagasaan dapat sinasabi niya na dapat nakinig akong mabuti.
Na sana nung umuwi siya hindi nalang ako nagtanong, pinabayaan ko nalang yung feelings ko that time.
Kasi na hug nya pa ako that time saying sorry kase naging busy siya.
Na dapat nag sacrifice nalang ako.
Man who cant be move kase hindi ko alam kung ipipilit ko pa sarili ko kase sayang yung 7yrs kase may goal kami na mag grow up ng sabay, future family.


Meron talaga akong lapse din, ako yung sumusundo hatid sakanya pero it seems na mas importante yung friends nya sa church kesa samin/sakin kaya nasabi ko na minsan pagod ako di ko masundo at totoo naman kase may daily work ako.
Then tumuloy tuloy na, na wag ko na daw siya sunduin kasi gagabinin na siya ng uwi hanggang sa nangyari na to.
Nagkaroon siguro kami ng kinimkim na dahilan.

Try to contest your feelings towards her kung hanggang saan ang kaya mo, pero not to the part na ibuhos mo ang lahat magtira ka para sa sarili mo. now there are couple of questions i would like to ask.

1. bakit niya nasabi na ini-invalidate mo ang feelings niya?
2.. nannghingi ka ba ng attentions sa kanya during that stressful situation?
3. what did you do sa time na yun? as for me, kung nanghihingi siya ng space kasi sa pagkadahilanang ito:

i would try to carry part of her burden. suggest things like ano need ko gawin ? susunduin kita sa work ? sabay tayo pupunta sa ospital bantayan magulang mo ? like ganun.
as for the guy, na nasa notebook niya it would mean she's trying to find something or someone to comfort herself to not think of stressful thing like the situation of your relationship.
you should know by now of what kind of girl she is based on what she did..
she's the kind of girl na if she has a lot on her plate, she will weigh thing ups of what 's inside of it.
and then try to remove it. it's not attitude its maturity. it's not because she's not in love with you, wrong timing lang.


Eto suggestions ko:
1. hindi kayo mag girlfriend/boyfriend online -- meron kayong real life na situation .. wag kayong umasa sa messenger .. puntahan mo sa bahay nila pag usapan niyo ng maigi.
napansnin ko eh yung communication niyo. "may unsent messages",
kulang kayo ng quality time yung face-to-face conversation. hindi naman siguro kayoo LDR.
( I will wait for this to happen) It would be pointless to help you forward kung wala to, kasi walang progress yung situation niyo.) wag ka maghintay ma seen yung messages mo.
2. Try to think bakit mo na describe sarili mo na the man who can't be moved..
" dahil ba hindi mo nagawa ang lahat ? or Huli na ba ang lahat."

The man who cant be moved kasi may convo kaming unsent msgs na sabi nya na she miss me already, she admitted what she said lately pero inunsent nya at nabasa ko naman. Hindi ko lang talaga nireplyan kasi nagtatampo na ako sobra.

Then ayun nga hindi daw siya okay at gusto nyang ayusin yung relasyo namin dahil pagkakamali niya bakit nangyari to.

Tinatry ko naman na makipagkita sakanya makausap at makita ko siya pero palagi na siyang nagre-reason na sobrang busy nya sa work hindi siya makapagbigay ng time.
Until di ko na alam ano magiging moves ko, until i ask her kung may pagmamahal pa siya sakin pero hindi nya sineen(naka restrict lang ako) pero alam kong nabasa nya yon pero hindi nya pa rin sineen until lumipas yung isang buong araw kaya inunsent ko nalang. Pero wala siya naging replies.

As of now nag move ulit ako na tinanong ko siya makakapagkita ba tayo at makakapag-usap?
Pero sobrang busy pa rin daw niya sa work. Di ko alam ano na irereply ko.
Gusto ko siyang puntahan nalang para ako na mag aayos mismo pero di ko alam saan.
Di ko nga alam saan ako lulugar at ano ba dapat mararamdaman ko ngayon.

 

[cirilo143]

I think and i guess ininvalidate ko feelings nya not just when it happen this thing, long time ago na everytime and i admitted that. Pero not intentionally. I can't figure out kung ano saan ko siya na invalidate pero admitted ko na may pagkakamali ako everytime na may pakiramdam ako na "parang ako yung nasasaktan" everytime.

And yes there's was a time na umuwi na siya finally after the whole month busy ng march and politely ask her with tampo na "bakit ngayon ka lang, hindi mo naba ako naisip or kami?"
Then she cried, dagdag stress na daw ako at maghiwalay nalang kami.
Gusto kong sabihin sa sarili ko na teka ngayon ka lang umuwi after all of these situations na walang magandang comms, walang tamlay yun relasyon natin and deserve ko rin ba na maging concern at magtanong? Kase ako yung naiwan magisa.
Then after that humingi na sya ng space gusto nya daw ayusin sarili niya etc..


We both know 1 month kaming parang single status, we know na may problema bakit di kami magusap at maayos.
Kahit na alam kong may problema at hindi na kami nagkikita that month kinakamusta ko pa rin siya like normal days normal routine like kung may maitutulong ba ako regarding sa stress nya kahit na hindi na siya nag seen.
Mag seen lang at reply random time whenever she like it to.
Pero kahit na alam kong may ganong situation tuloy tuloy pa rin comms ko sakanya, until she ask for space.


Actually ako ang hatid sundo sakanya everytime. Except sa workplace nya but its okay, di ko alam ano reason sa part na yan.
Also limited support lang maibibigay ko sakanya that time na stress siya dahil nag break kami last year, binalikan ko pero never na nyang pinaalam sa family niya na nagbalikan ulit kami. Tinago na niya lang and its fine for me.

The guy or someone na nasa note yan yung guy dahilan din ng pagka break namin last year. Yung note last year pa nya sinulat yon pero nakatago lang.
But its fine, she explained it bakit ganyan ganito yung note na yan.






The man who can't be move i think kasi dapat tuwing may feelings na nasasagasaan dapat sinasabi niya na dapat nakinig akong mabuti.
Na sana nung umuwi siya hindi nalang ako nagtanong, pinabayaan ko nalang yung feelings ko that time.
Kasi na hug nya pa ako that time saying sorry kase naging busy siya.
Na dapat nag sacrifice nalang ako.
Man who cant be move kase hindi ko alam kung ipipilit ko pa sarili ko kase sayang yung 7yrs kase may goal kami na mag grow up ng sabay, future family.


Meron talaga akong lapse din, ako yung sumusundo hatid sakanya pero it seems na mas importante yung friends nya sa church kesa samin/sakin kaya nasabi ko na minsan pagod ako di ko masundo at totoo naman kase may daily work ako.
Then tumuloy tuloy na, na wag ko na daw siya sunduin kasi gagabinin na siya ng uwi hanggang sa nangyari na to.
Nagkaroon siguro kami ng kinimkim na dahilan.

First off, thank you for answering all of my questions, I can see really how serious you are with your relationship and also where your frustration is coming from.
Now, alam kong sobrang nasasaktan ka ngayon kasi feeling mo para kang binabelawala, for all that concerns you have for her, tapos you are trying to ρá†ch things up pero marami siyang reasons not to meet up for this and that. AND THAT IS HER FAULT. alam ko may pagkukulang ka before pero its not enough reason para gawin niya to sayo. there may be a reason bakit niya ginagawa sayo to.

So I would really suggest na makipagkita ka sa kanya for a serious talk, puntahan mo after work hours niya or after church acitivties niya o kaya sa bahay. para wala siyang reason na hindi makipag-usap. I am not suggesting gawin mo to para makapag-ayos, ginawa mo ito para sa sarili mo. ano man ang ending or final talk niyo e makapagbigay peace of mind sa sarili mo. maging kayo ulit good for you -- peroo kung hindi man, it would be time for you to move on. kasi, you became the man who can't be move kasi marami kang unanswered question na nasa mind mo. It would really help for a serious face-to-face talk.

it is not uncommon na merong ganitong situation, kasi long-term na ang inyong relasyon -- wala na siguro yung skip-a-beat feeling ng relasyon kasi prior to this, sinabi mo na you guys are in 7 years now. believe ako sayo kasi nandun pa rin yung eagerness mo despite sa haba ng pinagdaanan niyo. I respect you as man, truly.


I was also in an almost 6-year-relationship before. tanong ko lang, ma control ba siyang babae ? like" ganito gawin mo, ganito, ganyan makinig ka sakin" sinasabi nniya ba eto sayo ? .. ( I would like you to answer this, please).

 

[leemarcdaniel]

First off, thank you for answering all of my questions, I can see really how serious you are with your relationship and also where your frustration is coming from.
Now, alam kong sobrang nasasaktan ka ngayon kasi feeling mo para kang binabelawala, for all that concerns you have for her, tapos you are trying to ρá†ch things up pero marami siyang reasons not to meet up for this and that. AND THAT IS HER FAULT. alam ko may pagkukulang ka before pero its not enough reason para gawin niya to sayo. there may be a reason bakit niya ginagawa sayo to.

So I would really suggest na makipagkita ka sa kanya for a serious talk, puntahan mo after work hours niya or after church acitivties niya o kaya sa bahay. para wala siyang reason na hindi makipag-usap. I am not suggesting gawin mo to para makapag-ayos, ginawa mo ito para sa sarili mo. ano man ang ending or final talk niyo e makapagbigay peace of mind sa sarili mo. maging kayo ulit good for you -- peroo kung hindi man, it would be time for you to move on. kasi, you became the man who can't be move kasi marami kang unanswered question na nasa mind mo. It would really help for a serious face-to-face talk.

it is not uncommon na merong ganitong situation, kasi long-term na ang inyong relasyon -- wala na siguro yung skip-a-beat feeling ng relasyon kasi prior to this, sinabi mo na you guys are in 7 years now. believe ako sayo kasi nandun pa rin yung eagerness mo despite sa haba ng pinagdaanan niyo. I respect you as man, truly.


I was also in an almost 6-year-relationship before. tanong ko lang, ma control ba siyang babae ? like" ganito gawin mo, ganito, ganyan makinig ka sakin" sinasabi nniya ba eto sayo ? .. ( I would like you to answer this, please).

tanong ko lang, ma control ba siyang babae ? like" ganito gawin mo, ganito, ganyan makinig ka sakin" sinasabi nniya ba eto sayo ?

On normal things yes.
Pero sa serious talk NO.
Pero i don't think ginagawa nya yan or sinasabi nya everytime like this situation? Walang ganyan.

Anyways. She's out of town for work daw di ko alam kung hanggang kailan.
And naiinip na daw ba ako sobra at ano daw ba dapat pagusapan namin kase tanong ko kailan kami magkikita at makakapagusap.

Well, di na ako nag reply. Ayaw ko na rin mag message. Di ko na ma feel na may importansya pa kung ano ang meron whatever she saying na gusto niya pa ayusin ulit.
I will leave it there and bahala na mananahimik nalang.
Its very sad lang na naawa nalang ako sa sarili ko at naiingit. Im done i think.

Thank you for this..

 

[cirilo143]

On normal things yes.
Pero sa serious talk NO.
Pero i don't think ginagawa nya yan or sinasabi nya everytime like this situation? Walang ganyan.

Anyways. She's out of town for work daw di ko alam kung hanggang kailan.
And naiinip na daw ba ako sobra at ano daw ba dapat pagusapan namin kase tanong ko kailan kami magkikita at makakapagusap.

Well, di na ako nag reply. Ayaw ko na rin mag message. Di ko na ma feel na may importansya pa kung ano ang meron whatever she saying na gusto niya pa ayusin ulit.
I will leave it there and bahala na mananahimik nalang.
Its very sad lang na naawa nalang ako sa sarili ko at naiingit. Im done i think.

Thank you for this..

I would like to say these things before we part.
My final verdict for this session:
Most likely meron na ibang lalake sa puso niya/ or sila na talaga di niya lang masabi sayo kasi ayaw niyang e accept sa sarili ng babae na siya yung may kasalan kung bakit nagkaganyan yung relasyon niyo. Mostly, mga babae ay playing pa victim, di ko nilalahat pero marami. ikaw sisisihin kung bakit nagkaganyan kayo kasi di mo kaya or tatanungin tapos sasabihin like "di mo na ba kaya ? kung gusto mo makipaghiwalay wala akong magagaawa choice mo yan eh." playing the victim yan, ayaw niya na sa kanya manggaling yung paghihiwalay niyo.

"Ang dami mong iniimbento
Puro lang mali ko yung ikinukwento
Para lang magmukhang mabait sa tao
Sarili mo na baho yung tinatago
Hoy teka lang ‘wag ka nang magmalinis
Alam mo din kung anong aking tiniis
Hinihintay mo lang akong magkamali
At yun ang gagawin mong dahilan para makaalis"

CTTO
Nagloko ka rin naman - Humprey


sabihan mo nlng na hiwalay na kayo. di mo na kaya .. ganun.. ma shock ka na lang mag my day brokenhearted tapos magpapacomfort. playing the victim talaga.
I would like to say thank you,also. I am too learning from this kind of situation.
I am hoping for your fast moving on. Give your self some leeway, enjoy go to some resort mag enjoy ka free yourself!

 

[leemarcdaniel]

I would like to say these things before we part.
My final verdict for this session:
Most likely meron na ibang lalake sa puso niya/ or sila na talaga di niya lang masabi sayo kasi ayaw niyang e accept sa sarili ng babae na siya yung may kasalan kung bakit nagkaganyan yung relasyon niyo. Mostly, mga babae ay playing pa victim, di ko nilalahat pero marami. ikaw sisisihin kung bakit nagkaganyan kayo kasi di mo kaya or tatanungin tapos sasabihin like "di mo na ba kaya ? kung gusto mo makipaghiwalay wala akong magagaawa choice mo yan eh." playing the victim yan, ayaw niya na sa kanya manggaling yung paghihiwalay niyo.

"Ang dami mong iniimbento
Puro lang mali ko yung ikinukwento
Para lang magmukhang mabait sa tao
Sarili mo na baho yung tinatago
Hoy teka lang ‘wag ka nang magmalinis
Alam mo din kung anong aking tiniis
Hinihintay mo lang akong magkamali
At yun ang gagawin mong dahilan para makaalis"

CTTO
Nagloko ka rin naman - Humprey


sabihan mo nlng na hiwalay na kayo. di mo na kaya .. ganun.. ma shock ka na lang mag my day brokenhearted tapos magpapacomfort. playing the victim talaga.
I would like to say thank you,also. I am too learning from this kind of situation.
I am hoping for your fast moving on. Give your self some leeway, enjoy go to some resort mag enjoy ka free yourself!

So anong better ways.
Para ma tuldukan na, ask her na itigil nalang because of some reasons?
Or ask her if still really care abou this if she want to fix this mess?

 

[cirilo143]

So anong better ways.
Para ma tuldukan na, ask her na itigil nalang because of some reasons?
Or ask her if still really care abou this if she want to fix this mess?

Para sa akin tigil mo na -- she's not into you anymore, sorry for being blunt.

 

[PHC_LaCe12]

Just your self a space sa kanya focus muna sa goal at sarili mo yuj lang