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Tutorial How To Get Closer To Your Crush Part 2

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📌Find common interests.
One of the simplest ways to be closer is to find activities and interests that you and your crush both like. Talk with your crush about something they like. Identify the interests that match your own, and spend more time on those activities. Sometimes getting to know someone involves seeing how common interests may be different in approach.


📌Start off as friends.
Though your romantic feelings may be hard to control, it's important to get to know the 'real' person that is your crush. Wouldn't you want that person you like to be someone you also want to be friends with?
  • If you don't feel like your crush would be a good friend, or that your interests are too different, think about what that may mean. Would you want to be close to someone who you don't think would be a good friend?
  • Allow your friendship to lead into romance, rather than the other way around. Don't rush into something. Try to find ways to keep your mind off your crush, and focus on how to be their friend first.
  • Keep the interactions casual at first, rather than trying to find out if he or she likes you.
  • Consider making friends with the friends of your crush. Getting to know his or her friends may help you to get closer to your crush.



📌Be a good listener.
Make an effort to listen to what your crush likes. Be positive and smile. Give signs that you are listening to what he or she is saying. Don't be distracted by other things. Don't avert your eyes due to shyness.
  • When you actually listen to what your crush is saying, and not just think about the way he or she looks, you'll be able to really know what the person is like.
  • Ask follow-up questions. When you are actively listening to your crush, you're paying attention to what he or she is saying. Ask for details about what they are talking about, or clarification if something sounds confusing.

📌Be yourself.
It's important to be your true self. Be honest about what you like and don't like. Don't try to be fake, or someone that you hate. Think about what things matter to you.
  • Act in a way that feels comfortable and natural to you.
  • Don't lie about yourself to make it seem like you're someone different than you are. They will eventually find out you lied.

📌Have confidence.
You are a unique and amazing person. Get yourself some credit, and be proud of who you are and what you've done. You don't need to shy away from being yourself, and showing others that you are confident.
  • Be positive and surround yourself with other people who are positive.

📌Be approachable and kind.
Kindness is key. While being approachable and friendly may get your crush to notice you, they may be hesitant to be your friend, or let you be close if you're rude, cold, or stand-offish.
  • Try to overcome your shyness by at least having a short conversation. Consider compliment your crush. Or talk about something that you both are doing.

📌Avoid over-analyzing the situation. Your crush is likely someone you know, but aren't close friends with yet. Like anyone new, it may lead to something close, or not. Avoid idealizing your crush. He or she is still a regular person, just like everyone else.
  • It takes time to develop a new friendship or relationship. Your crush will not notice your overnight.
  • Realize that your crush may not intentionally be ignoring you. If it's a large class, school, or workplace, oftentimes you may not notice someone until you interact with them a few times one-on-one.

📌Make time to talk one-on-one.
Find ways to separate yourself from your group of friends, and do something where it's just the two of you. Consider these ways:
  • Make yourself available to help him or her out with something.
  • Make jokes. Don’t be mean, but making a small joke at his or her expense can loosen tension and break the ice a bit. (Try to be even more ready to laugh at yourself. This can help melt the ice even more, because it helps your crush know your thoughts, know you, a little better).
📌Flirt with your crush.
Consider being openly flirtatious by complimenting your crush. Say something that you like about them, without just saying "I like you." This can be through non-verbal body language, a note to them, or by directly talking with them about what you like about them
  • Consider saying, "I really like talking to you" rather than just blurting out, "I like you."
  • Or consider saying things like, "I"You're really cool."
📌Give them space.
If you're spending a lot of time around your crush, and they seem to be hesitant to talk, try to avoid coming off as clingy. It's the same for your friends, family, or anyone you spend time with. Showing that you are independent can actually make you more attractive.
  • Don't center all your time around your crush. Remember that there are lots of cool people and fun things to do out there. And your crush shouldn't be only thing that matters.
  • Your crush may notice you more after you've had some time apart. Let them miss you a little. Hopefully, they notice when you're not around.




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