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jareed

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Kailangan ba talaga ng kaibigan? oo alam natin na mahirap makagawa ng mga bagay kung wala kang kasama o supporta ng iba, pero dumating kasi ako sa punto na napagod akong makipag-socialize sa ibang tao, dati priority ko makipag-kaibigan, kaso ngayun nawalan nako ng gana, siguro dahil lang sa nilamon ako ng mga problema, lahat naman tayo siguro dumadaan dito.

Nalilito kasi ako, di ko alam kung isa-sama ko yung pakikipag-socialize sa dapat kong priority sa buhay, sign ba ito na nagiging mature ako dahil sa tingin ko may higit na dapat akong iprayoridad na ibang bagay bukod sa pakikipag-kaibigan?
 
People need people. This is one of the biggest differences between animals and humans. We have evolved to need others. Even when we are young, we can feel like we are alone, but the human need to be with others is something that is built into us. It is a universal need that we all share. As we get older, we get more complex. We need friends and family to help us cope with our needs and wants. And we need friends to help us feel important and valuable.

Think of the people you love. Think of the friends you've had. Think of the people you love. How do you know you are lovable? Is it the fact that you can't imagine a world without them? That they have become a part of you? That you are a better person because they are in your life? Is it that you can't imagine life without them? That you know that they would always be there for you?

Friendship is a relationship that has a lot to do with what we call the inner self. If we are born with the capacity to love, then we are born with the capacity to be loved.

In many cultures, people are very close to each other, and they often have no need for a close friend. They have a tribe of people who are very important to them. We live in a culture that needs a close friend. It is not unusual to need a close friend.

We are social beings, and we are social animals.

The need to be loved is one of the most basic human needs.

The need to be loved is one of the most basic human needs.

A friend is someone who will help us be loved.

If you are looking for someone to be your best friend, you should know that you are not alone. We all need a friend.
 
DI ako good adviser pero;

For me is, it depends on you kasi if iisipin mo noong panahon ng mga magulang natin is solo lng sila na inaano yung problema nila at nakaya din naman nila na mag isa ay umangat or naka survive.

Pero if ako kasi tatanongin, mas prefer ko na may mga kaibigan ako at may ka connection, iniisip ko kasi na if pipiliin ko yung pride or pilion ko yung ginawa ng mga magulang ko na solo lng sila; is mukhang dinaanan kasi nila yung matinik at bulok na daan eh.

Nasa isip ko now if may mga kaibigan ako at ka connection, mukhang mapapadali yung buhay ko;

Now di sa lumaki yung ulo ko ha or nag papaspoil pero pwede nyo din naman matawag na ganun;
May mga gbf ako na mga matatalino like WITH HIGH HONORS talaga tas yung isa pinaka close ko which is TOP 1 streak tapos sa MSU nag aaral tas FIRST HONOR ulit with 97 average.

Kapag nahihirapan at tinatamad ako matik ako agad lalapit sa kanya nag papatulong, minsan tinuturuan nya lng ako pero minsan din tinatamad sya kaya yung module ko sya na nag aanswer ket via online lng ginawa nya is nag wordpad lng tas senend yung file.

Sumali din ako sa isang FRATERNITY for connection din, nakaibigan ko yung mga ka frat member ko and sobrang friendly nila; now meron akong benefits like if may problem ako pwede ako lumapit sakanila, kapag na timing din na may ka frat member na dumaan na may sasakyan matik makaka libre ka ng sakay, meron din kaming tattoo artist na kapag mag papa tattoo ka ang babayaran mo lng ay yung pang ink di na yung full pay, meron din kaming influencer na kapag may product ka sya lng at libre nya lng na eh introduce.

So inshort, if prefer mo mag solo or like di makikipag halubilo pwedeng pwede po yan, yan din mga gawain ng mga introverts, and mas goods pa mga introverts kesa sa extro, and also wag mo po talaga kimkimin yung mga problema mo, ipalabas mo hangang sa makakaya, ako nga eh sobrang daldal ko dito sa phc ket sa kalalaki kong tao pati mga gbf ko matik tadtad sa mga chats ko haha so yun lng po skl
 
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DI ako good adviser pero;

For me is, it depends on you kasi if iisipin mo noong panahon ng mga magulang natin is solo lng sila na inaano yung problema nila at nakaya din naman nila na mag isa ay umangat or naka survive.

Pero if ako kasi tatanongin, mas prefer ko na may mga kaibigan ako at may ka connection, iniisip ko kasi na if pipiliin ko yung pride or pilion ko yung ginawa ng mga magulang ko na solo lng sila; is mukhang dinaanan kasi nila yung matinik at bulok na daan eh.

Nasa isip ko now if may mga kaibigan ako at ka connection, mukhang mapapadali yung buhay ko;

Now di sa lumaki yung ulo ko ha or nag papaspoil pero pwede nyo din naman matawag na ganun;
May mga gbf ako na mga matatalino like WITH HIGH HONORS talaga tas yung isa pinaka close ko which is TOP 1 streak tapos sa MSU nag aaral tas FIRST HONOR ulit with 97 average.

Kapag nahihirapan at tinatamad ako matik ako agad lalapit sa kanya nag papatulong, minsan tinuturuan nya lng ako pero minsan din tinatamad sya kaya yung module ko sya na nag aanswer ket via online lng ginawa nya is nag wordpad lng tas senend yung file.

Sumali din ako sa isang FRATERNITY for connection din, nakaibigan ko yung mga ka frat member ko and sobrang friendly nila; now meron akong benefits like if may problem ako pwede ako lumapit sakanila, kapag na timing din na may ka frat member na dumaan na may sasakyan matik makaka libre ka ng sakay, meron din kaming tattoo artist na kapag mag papa tattoo ka ang babayaran mo lng ay yung pang ink di na yung full pay, meron din kaming influencer na kapag may product ka sya lng at libre nya lng na eh introduce.

So inshort, if prefer mo mag solo or like di makikipag halubilo pwedeng pwede po yan, yan din mga gawain ng mga introverts, and mas goods pa mga introverts kesa sa extro, and also wag mo po talaga kimkimin yung mga problema mo, ipalabas mo hangang sa makakaya, ako nga eh sobrang daldal ko dito sa phc ket sa kalalaki kong tao pati mga gbf ko matik tadtad sa mga chats ko haha so yun lng po skl
agree ako dito....
People need people. This is one of the biggest differences between animals and humans. We have evolved to need others. Even when we are young, we can feel like we are alone, but the human need to be with others is something that is built into us. It is a universal need that we all share. As we get older, we get more complex. We need friends and family to help us cope with our needs and wants. And we need friends to help us feel important and valuable.

Think of the people you love. Think of the friends you've had. Think of the people you love. How do you know you are lovable? Is it the fact that you can't imagine a world without them? That they have become a part of you? That you are a better person because they are in your life? Is it that you can't imagine life without them? That you know that they would always be there for you?

Friendship is a relationship that has a lot to do with what we call the inner self. If we are born with the capacity to love, then we are born with the capacity to be loved.

In many cultures, people are very close to each other, and they often have no need for a close friend. They have a tribe of people who are very important to them. We live in a culture that needs a close friend. It is not unusual to need a close friend.

We are social beings, and we are social animals.

The need to be loved is one of the most basic human needs.

The need to be loved is one of the most basic human needs.

A friend is someone who will help us be loved.

If you are looking for someone to be your best friend, you should know that you are not alone. We all need a friend.
agree... ok lang nmn na makipag kaibigan ka at the same time reach your goal basta siguradohin mo lang din na yung kaibigang pipiliin mo yung di magiging hadlang sa mga plans mo in life na di ka e drag down instead will help you reach the peak of your life goals... support from friends and family means a lot..problems may bring us down at times but it doesnt mean na di na natin need makipagsocialize.. because socializing is part of our daily life lalo na sa work without good socialization around you may cause impact to your plans...
 
ang hahaba ng ibang komento pero ito lang masasabi ko sayo paps...

almost same tayo ng dinadatnan, ako binitawan ko na mga college friends/kakalase na rin umalis na rin ako sa gc nila dahil parang nararamdaman ko na hindi ako kabilang sa kanila. sila kumikita at sumasahod, ako wala. nganga kahit nag aaply walang nalapit saking work. IDK kung matutuloy yung plano itong taon pagkaupo ng bagong mayor namin. (hindi pa sigurado, sabi ng dating cowoker ko..) dahil diyan kaya umalis na ko sa gc ng mga college friends ko at yun nga hindi na rin ako relate sa kanila.

last year lang kaming nag kita kita birthday ng isa kong kakalase. itong taon hindi na ako sumipot. IDK baka may gathering nangyari last week..

mas mabuti pang kaunti lang mga kaibigan mo.. less problema na rin kung marami parang dagdag problema kung nag kataong may problema din sila na maiinvolve ka.
 
You actually don't need “friends” in life unless you are really extroverted and can't survive without talking. In case you are an introvert, you can absolutely live well without friends. If you are just an average person or ambivert, you can well manage without any friend.

Taking the general case, I will describe different periods of life and things that we do :

Age: 0 to 15

  • You can totally rely on your parents/guardians for your needs. Parents (or your guardian) will always be there for you, at least during this period.
  • At school, be a sincere student and take notes yourself. Ask your teacher any questions. In this way you won't need the help of any classmate. Same goes for tuitions as well. Be self-dependant and take help from teachers. Be on the good books and in case of trouble your teachers will help you.
  • You have various forms of entertainment like TV, Smartphone games, etc. Nowadays even the classic games are now “multiplayer games”, so you actually need nobody to play any game.
Age 15 to 25 :

  • This is a crucial period of life where you would be having board exams (10th & 12th) as well as college entrance exams, then semester exams itself, then job placement interviews etc.
  • You will have to dedicate more time for studying various subjects and practicing questions. You don't have much time to talk with others anyways.
  • Make books your best friends. Also authentic internet information. You will see that books and internet will give you the best company which any human “friend” may not have given before.
  • Your aim should be to do well in highschool, college and job interviews. Prepare and polish yourself. You can take help of YøùTùbé videos for tips and tricks. There are other blogs and sites who share useful information. It's a mutual benefit, you help with their views and get information/advice in return.
  • During this time, avoid unnecessary conflicts and group formation. It's not gonna help you. Do what you are supposed to do. Just like school days, college days will also go away, and you will come out as a wise quiet man, not a noisy empty vessel.
  • Once you get a job, try to attend trainings etc that are conducted by your company. At home go through video lessons on Udemy, Edx, LinkedIn Learning, etc. Be strong in your fundamentals.
 
People need people. This is one of the biggest differences between animals and humans. We have evolved to need others. Even when we are young, we can feel like we are alone, but the human need to be with others is something that is built into us. It is a universal need that we all share. As we get older, we get more complex. We need friends and family to help us cope with our needs and wants. And we need friends to help us feel important and valuable.

Think of the people you love. Think of the friends you've had. Think of the people you love. How do you know you are lovable? Is it the fact that you can't imagine a world without them? That they have become a part of you? That you are a better person because they are in your life? Is it that you can't imagine life without them? That you know that they would always be there for you?

Friendship is a relationship that has a lot to do with what we call the inner self. If we are born with the capacity to love, then we are born with the capacity to be loved.

In many cultures, people are very close to each other, and they often have no need for a close friend. They have a tribe of people who are very important to them. We live in a culture that needs a close friend. It is not unusual to need a close friend.

We are social beings, and we are social animals.

The need to be loved is one of the most basic human needs.

The need to be loved is one of the most basic human needs.

A friend is someone who will help us be loved.

If you are looking for someone to be your best friend, you should know that you are not alone. We all need a friend.
salamat paps madami akong natutunan

DI ako good adviser pero;

For me is, it depends on you kasi if iisipin mo noong panahon ng mga magulang natin is solo lng sila na inaano yung problema nila at nakaya din naman nila na mag isa ay umangat or naka survive.

Pero if ako kasi tatanongin, mas prefer ko na may mga kaibigan ako at may ka connection, iniisip ko kasi na if pipiliin ko yung pride or pilion ko yung ginawa ng mga magulang ko na solo lng sila; is mukhang dinaanan kasi nila yung matinik at bulok na daan eh.

Nasa isip ko now if may mga kaibigan ako at ka connection, mukhang mapapadali yung buhay ko;

Now di sa lumaki yung ulo ko ha or nag papaspoil pero pwede nyo din naman matawag na ganun;
May mga gbf ako na mga matatalino like WITH HIGH HONORS talaga tas yung isa pinaka close ko which is TOP 1 streak tapos sa MSU nag aaral tas FIRST HONOR ulit with 97 average.

Kapag nahihirapan at tinatamad ako matik ako agad lalapit sa kanya nag papatulong, minsan tinuturuan nya lng ako pero minsan din tinatamad sya kaya yung module ko sya na nag aanswer ket via online lng ginawa nya is nag wordpad lng tas senend yung file.

Sumali din ako sa isang FRATERNITY for connection din, nakaibigan ko yung mga ka frat member ko and sobrang friendly nila; now meron akong benefits like if may problem ako pwede ako lumapit sakanila, kapag na timing din na may ka frat member na dumaan na may sasakyan matik makaka libre ka ng sakay, meron din kaming tattoo artist na kapag mag papa tattoo ka ang babayaran mo lng ay yung pang ink di na yung full pay, meron din kaming influencer na kapag may product ka sya lng at libre nya lng na eh introduce.

So inshort, if prefer mo mag solo or like di makikipag halubilo pwedeng pwede po yan, yan din mga gawain ng mga introverts, and mas goods pa mga introverts kesa sa extro, and also wag mo po talaga kimkimin yung mga problema mo, ipalabas mo hangang sa makakaya, ako nga eh sobrang daldal ko dito sa phc ket sa kalalaki kong tao pati mga gbf ko matik tadtad sa mga chats ko haha so yun lng po skl
grabe salamat sa magandang idea babaunin ko to, remind ko lagi yung sarili ko tungkol diyan

ang hahaba ng ibang komento pero ito lang masasabi ko sayo paps...

almost same tayo ng dinadatnan, ako binitawan ko na mga college friends/kakalase na rin umalis na rin ako sa gc nila dahil parang nararamdaman ko na hindi ako kabilang sa kanila. sila kumikita at sumasahod, ako wala. nganga kahit nag aaply walang nalapit saking work. IDK kung matutuloy yung plano itong taon pagkaupo ng bagong mayor namin. (hindi pa sigurado, sabi ng dating cowoker ko..) dahil diyan kaya umalis na ko sa gc ng mga college friends ko at yun nga hindi na rin ako relate sa kanila.

last year lang kaming nag kita kita birthday ng isa kong kakalase. itong taon hindi na ako sumipot. IDK baka may gathering nangyari last week..

mas mabuti pang kaunti lang mga kaibigan mo.. less problema na rin kung marami parang dagdag problema kung nag kataong may problema din sila na maiinvolve ka.
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kailangan talaga natin ng friends kasi magiging sobrang lungkot siguro ng buhay pag wala kang friends. Maybe yung social anxiety na nararanasan mo ngayon ts, ay dahil masyado ka nang maraming friends or baka tulad ng sabi mo nga, burned out ka na from socializing too much. Maybe it's time to focus muna sa sarili mo, and I think your real friends would be on the same side with u. Maybe let them know na babawas bawasan mo muna ung paglalaboy niyo or gala or anything hahaha para meron ka ng "me" time para sa sarili mo hehe.

Disclaimer lang hehe: Not a psychological advice. Pero if the shoe fits, why not diba?
 
tina-try ko talaga maging independent kasi ayoko kong mag depend sa iba, and in turn ayoko ko ding may naka depend saken

i can only handle dependencies up to relationships above friends

it's ok to have friends but not close friends kasi meron na iyang dependencies na nangyayari
 
kailangan talaga natin ng friends kasi magiging sobrang lungkot siguro ng buhay pag wala kang friends. Maybe yung social anxiety na nararanasan mo ngayon ts, ay dahil masyado ka nang maraming friends or baka tulad ng sabi mo nga, burned out ka na from socializing too much. Maybe it's time to focus muna sa sarili mo, and I think your real friends would be on the same side with u. Maybe let them know na babawas bawasan mo muna ung paglalaboy niyo or gala or anything hahaha para meron ka ng "me" time para sa sarili mo hehe.

Disclaimer lang hehe: Not a psychological advice. Pero if the shoe fits, why not diba?
This actually applies po talaga to my current situation, sobrang ganda ng sinabi niyo, para kayong psychologist. sobrang salamat
 

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