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Don’t be late
This is kind of a given. Considering how many people don’t see punctuality as a virtue, Dapat on time ka naman.Punctuality is a must.
First date etiquette includes not digging the past
This first date may be the beginning of something new and special with the other person. You must ensure that you don’t bring the baggage of your past to the date. Plus, you must not try to dig the past in your date’s life.Iwasang pag usapan ang mga exes.
Avoid using your phone
Technology has its own pluses and minuses. And dating and relationships is a tricky space. Your time and attention should be reserved for the other person exclusively. Keep your phone in your pocket, or your bag, focus on the person without any distractions.Unless its an emergency thing.
Avoid controlling the conversation
As the conversation begins to flow, it is important that you both hear each other out. This is a conversation, and this date is not just about you. Talk about hobbies, passions, about each others jobs, the books and movies you enjoy, keep the flow.
Dapat give and take,two way process.
Marriage or children should not come up in this conversation yet
It is just your first date with the other person and you do not want to make them uncomfortable with long term commitments of marriage or children.
Masyado pang maaga para pag-usapan ang mga bagay na yan.
How can you talk about the future when you are not even sure about the second date? These conversations are appropriate only when you have a real thing going and can see your future with this person.
Pay attention to basic table manners
A proper dating etiquette to portray you as a proper, well-groomed person. The way you eat and behave while eating says a lot about your personality. You must make sure that your table manners are on point and you do not make a fool of yourself. It is not about being knowledgeable about wine pairings or the correct use of cutlery, but a basic courtesy you show the other person.
Asking questions is good dating etiquette
The first date is the chance to get to know the other person better. So you should make it a point to ask appropriate questions to your date. This goes on to show that you’re interested in learning more about them. This can make you more at ease in each other’s company.
Avoid bragging
You may have many an accomplishment to boast of. Your job, swanky car, plush apartment, social status, educational background…the works. But rubbing it in your date’s face qualifies as the worst dating etiquette. Trust us when we say, no one likes a show-off.Iwasang magyabang instead be down to earth as much as possible.
Avoid overindulgence
The idea is to impress your date right? Why screw up the whole thing by indulging and then regretting it later on what things could be like. Too much drinking on the first date can make you lose control and become sloppy. The messy side of you is something that you do not want to show the other person on the first date. So avoid overindulgence in ******* and be in control of what you do and say.
Enjoy yourself
Anxiety and dating does hand in hand, generally. Irrespective of whether the date is panning out as expected not, try to enjoy yourself. Remember that you have come out to have some fun. That will help take some edge off the situation. Encourage your date to have a good time too so that you both do not regret your decision of planning this date.Awkwardness is just a part of the gamw though.Just feel free and comfy.
Lastly Do not lead your date on necessarily
Don’t make promises of a second date unless you are sure
This is undoubtedly the most valuable pearl of wisdom in any dating etiquette. Unless you honestly feel that things will work out between you two, you must not lead your date on. Always be clear about what you want from the first date and do not give false hope to the other person.
excerpt and paraphrase from Bonobology/Bustle
This is kind of a given. Considering how many people don’t see punctuality as a virtue, Dapat on time ka naman.Punctuality is a must.
First date etiquette includes not digging the past
This first date may be the beginning of something new and special with the other person. You must ensure that you don’t bring the baggage of your past to the date. Plus, you must not try to dig the past in your date’s life.Iwasang pag usapan ang mga exes.
Avoid using your phone
Technology has its own pluses and minuses. And dating and relationships is a tricky space. Your time and attention should be reserved for the other person exclusively. Keep your phone in your pocket, or your bag, focus on the person without any distractions.Unless its an emergency thing.
Avoid controlling the conversation
As the conversation begins to flow, it is important that you both hear each other out. This is a conversation, and this date is not just about you. Talk about hobbies, passions, about each others jobs, the books and movies you enjoy, keep the flow.
Dapat give and take,two way process.
Marriage or children should not come up in this conversation yet
It is just your first date with the other person and you do not want to make them uncomfortable with long term commitments of marriage or children.
Masyado pang maaga para pag-usapan ang mga bagay na yan.
How can you talk about the future when you are not even sure about the second date? These conversations are appropriate only when you have a real thing going and can see your future with this person.
Pay attention to basic table manners
A proper dating etiquette to portray you as a proper, well-groomed person. The way you eat and behave while eating says a lot about your personality. You must make sure that your table manners are on point and you do not make a fool of yourself. It is not about being knowledgeable about wine pairings or the correct use of cutlery, but a basic courtesy you show the other person.
Asking questions is good dating etiquette
The first date is the chance to get to know the other person better. So you should make it a point to ask appropriate questions to your date. This goes on to show that you’re interested in learning more about them. This can make you more at ease in each other’s company.
Avoid bragging
You may have many an accomplishment to boast of. Your job, swanky car, plush apartment, social status, educational background…the works. But rubbing it in your date’s face qualifies as the worst dating etiquette. Trust us when we say, no one likes a show-off.Iwasang magyabang instead be down to earth as much as possible.
Avoid overindulgence
The idea is to impress your date right? Why screw up the whole thing by indulging and then regretting it later on what things could be like. Too much drinking on the first date can make you lose control and become sloppy. The messy side of you is something that you do not want to show the other person on the first date. So avoid overindulgence in ******* and be in control of what you do and say.
Enjoy yourself
Anxiety and dating does hand in hand, generally. Irrespective of whether the date is panning out as expected not, try to enjoy yourself. Remember that you have come out to have some fun. That will help take some edge off the situation. Encourage your date to have a good time too so that you both do not regret your decision of planning this date.Awkwardness is just a part of the gamw though.Just feel free and comfy.
Lastly Do not lead your date on necessarily
Don’t make promises of a second date unless you are sure
This is undoubtedly the most valuable pearl of wisdom in any dating etiquette. Unless you honestly feel that things will work out between you two, you must not lead your date on. Always be clear about what you want from the first date and do not give false hope to the other person.
excerpt and paraphrase from Bonobology/Bustle