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hello po, pwede po ba humingi ng love advice :)

baka matulungan ninyo po ako sa experience ko,

laking simbahan po ako (born again christian, at natuto ako na mag aral muna bago mag girlfriend, at kahit may mga babae na nasa paligid sakin nung panahonna un binalewa ko lng. kasi prior ko makapag tapos( para narin lumayo sa tukso) at turo rin kasi ng magulang na kagaya nila hindi na sila nakapag tapos dahil sa nagkaroon ng pamilya agad, para mapagmalaki ng pamilya at maging mabuting ehemplo sa ibang kabataan, hindi po kami mayaman at laking hirap lang dahil naging working student ako ng 3years (service crew sa jolibee at kfc) never po ako na link sa mga naging katrabaho ko, at kilala nila akong mabuting kaibigan at katrabaho at un iba pa nga pastor ang tawag sakin

at ngayon ng nakapagtapos na as BS information system, naghanap akong Tech support sa isang ospital kaso walang available at hindi naman ako mapili sa trabaho tinanggap ko ang pagiging endoscopy technician at 3years ako dun, at meron mga nagkagusto sa akin kaso wala pa ako sa puntong gusto ko na umibig, hanggang sa pagkakataong nagpalipat ako ng department at naging hemodialysis technician ngayon, at muli may mga naging kawork ako, at meron isang doctor na nagwelcome at laging nangungumusta sa akin, sa palagay ko parang may gusto siya sa akin, kayat parang nahuhulog na ang loob ko sa kanya, kahit isang hamak lang akong empleyado ng isang ospital
un mga batch mate ko sa church may mga love life na at napansinkong naiiwan ako, tapos dito na un time na parang naghahalo na sa isip ko nakailangang ko ng mag girlfriend at magmahal, at nag kagusto na rin po ako sa kanya, balak ko sya ligawan (pero di ko pa ginagawa since birth) medyo may halong takot at gusto ko pa ipagdasal,. pero gusto ko rin na kasing subukan ang pagiging lalaki at paano manligaw at magmahal or masaktan kahit alam kong pwede kaming tsismisan ng aking mga katrabaho or ng ibang doctor.


no gf since birth nga po pala ako at 26 years old na :)

please respect my post, tungkol sa ganitong sitwasyon, salamat ng marami

open po ako sa mga advice ninyo, salamat ng marami
God bless everyone :)
 
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Hindi masama TS.. Take note hindi k n nabata no... Paps aba e panahon n rin para nmn bigyan mo ng chance ang sarili mo na umibig. Pero maging matalino ka rin... Kilalanin mong mabuti ang babaeng pakamamahalin mo... Ang pamilya nila mas maganda kung magiging close ng family mo para mas maging matibay pagmamahalan nyo.... God Bless sau Bro and sana maging maligaya ka sa magiging gf mo...
 
Same TS. me got no gf since birth
But I can try advicing you base on my own perspectives. I drive my mind with logics, not emotions. I don't know if it'll work for you since I've made countless simulations in my mind :)

Before I'll start, I've found your biggest problem.
turo rin kasi ng magulang na kagaya nila hindi na sila nakapag tapos dahil sa nagkaroon ng pamilya agad
This is a filipino mindset. If you have a gf/bf before finishing your studies, you'll surely fail in life. Well, in most cases, yes. But that doesn't necessarily mean that having a gf/bf a bad thing. Main reason why they fail at that because they are driven with their own emotions(negative ones) while people who are driven with good emotions can accomplish in life. This is one of the possible cause why you have this situation in love life. But hey, it's not a bad thing.

Okay, i'll try giving some tiny advice.

Before you start loving someone, make sure your mindset is not set to "i need a girlfriend because [reasons here]". No, that's a bad mindset and will only upset both of you. You should aim your mind to what your heart really needs. If you're only horny because of it, then you're not really inlove. But if what your heart is saying to actually love somene, then you're good to go.

Next phase would be the interactions.
Don't act in a way you wanted to get her. You should act in a way that is natural to you(not shitty attitudes, pls no). In that way, she'll know your true self and would eventually build trust.
Don't rush. Just keep calm. You'll never know that there's a perfect time to confess(or do something).
You need to know the people around her. Yes, literally know the people around her. That also includes her family members, friends, enemies, etc. And most importantly, you need to know her. Her actual self, not the seeming one.

I can't type every advice since I don't know where to begin. The ones I've said are just common things to do.
You can try asking me for questions and I'll try to answer them.
 
Same TS. me got no gf since birth
But I can try advicing you base on my own perspectives. I drive my mind with logics, not emotions. I don't know if it'll work for you since I've made countless simulations in my mind :)

Before I'll start, I've found your biggest problem.
This is a filipino mindset. If you have a gf/bf before finishing your studies, you'll surely fail in life. Well, in most cases, yes. But that doesn't necessarily mean that having a gf/bf a bad thing. Main reason why they fail at that because they are driven with their own emotions(negative ones) while people who are driven with good emotions can accomplish in life. This is one of the possible cause why you have this situation in love life. But hey, it's not a bad thing.

Okay, i'll try giving some tiny advice.

Before you start loving someone, make sure your mindset is not set to "i need a girlfriend because [reasons here]". No, that's a bad mindset and will only upset both of you. You should aim your mind to what your heart really needs. If you're only horny because of it, then you're not really inlove. But if what your heart is saying to actually love somene, then you're good to go.

Next phase would be the interactions.
Don't act in a way you wanted to get her. You should act in a way that is natural to you(not shitty attitudes, pls no). In that way, she'll know your true self and would eventually build trust.
Don't rush. Just keep calm. You'll never know that there's a perfect time to confess(or do something).
You need to know the people around her. Yes, literally know the people around her. That also includes her family members, friends, enemies, etc. And most importantly, you need to know her. Her actual self, not the seeming one.

I can't type every advice since I don't know where to begin. The ones I've said are just common things to do.
You can try asking me for questions and I'll try to answer them.


napakalupet naman :D
nosebleed :D
 
- adulting 101. you are now at legal age. having a gf/bf is very accepted by your family. and second you have salary to make impress and ligaw a girl. giving flowers/gifts and asking for a date are the initial things.
- relationship at work. please check if allowed sa company niyo. if yes then pwede mo ligawan si doc if and if papayag siya. secondly if papayag siya eh ok. it differs with the type of woman. but most of the time women with high positions like doctors have high expectations. baka maubos sahod mo sa panliligaw.
- your religion. again you are at legal age pero tatanggapin ba ng pamilya mo pag iba religion ng liligawan mo? if no then andami naman siguro babae sa church niyo. it is not about just fighting for love, it is about respecting your family.
 
Para saakin ipakita mo lang na siya yung dahilan kung bakit nawawala yung pagod at tuloy ang pag ngiti sa iyong mukha pero dapat di ka plastic dapat totoo ka sa sarili mo
 
Ang tanda mo na pala ts hehe. Umpisahan mo sa pangiti ngiti ts haha tapos sabayan mo ng bola. Lakas ng loob at kapal ng mukha kailangan mo ts haha, sumugal kana wala naman sigurong mawawala sayo. Malay mo diba? 😂
 
hello po, pwede po ba humingi ng love advice :)

baka matulungan ninyo po ako sa experience ko,

laking simbahan po ako (born again christian, at natuto ako na mag aral muna bago mag girlfriend, at kahit may mga babae na nasa paligid sakin nung panahonna un binalewa ko lng. kasi prior ko makapag tapos( para narin lumayo sa tukso) at turo rin kasi ng magulang na kagaya nila hindi na sila nakapag tapos dahil sa nagkaroon ng pamilya agad, para mapagmalaki ng pamilya at maging mabuting ehemplo sa ibang kabataan, hindi po kami mayaman at laking hirap lang dahil naging working student ako ng 3years (service crew sa jolibee at kfc) never po ako na link sa mga naging katrabaho ko, at kilala nila akong mabuting kaibigan at katrabaho at un iba pa nga pastor ang tawag sakin

at ngayon ng nakapagtapos na as BS information system, naghanap akong Tech support sa isang ospital kaso walang available at hindi naman ako mapili sa trabaho tinanggap ko ang pagiging endoscopy technician at 3years ako dun, at meron mga nagkagusto sa akin kaso wala pa ako sa puntong gusto ko na umibig, hanggang sa pagkakataong nagpalipat ako ng department at naging hemodialysis technician ngayon, at muli may mga naging kawork ako, at meron isang doctor na nagwelcome at laging nangungumusta sa akin, sa palagay ko parang may gusto siya sa akin, kayat parang nahuhulog na ang loob ko sa kanya, kahit isang hamak lang akong empleyado ng isang ospital
un mga batch mate ko sa church may mga love life na at napansinkong naiiwan ako, tapos dito na un time na parang naghahalo na sa isip ko nakailangang ko ng mag girlfriend at magmahal, at nag kagusto na rin po ako sa kanya, balak ko sya ligawan (pero di ko pa ginagawa since birth) medyo may halong takot at gusto ko pa ipagdasal,. pero gusto ko rin na kasing subukan ang pagiging lalaki at paano manligaw at magmahal or masaktan kahit alam kong pwede kaming tsismisan ng aking mga katrabaho or ng ibang doctor.


no gf since birth nga po pala ako at 26 years old na :)

please respect my post, tungkol sa ganitong sitwasyon, salamat ng marami

open po ako sa mga advice ninyo, salamat ng marami
God bless everyone :)

OMG. Seriously? Panigurado pre pag nakatikim ka ng *** magiging f*ckboy ka HAHAHA joke lang.. Bro, learn the "Ice Breakers" at makipag kilala ka sa mga babae or matuto ka na mambabae. You need to be prepared bago mo makilala ang mapapangasawa mo. Lam mo kase ang pakikipag relasyon is parang profession din, kelangan mo talaga ng "Expirience" para mag mature ka. kahit mga panandaliang relasyon lang wag ka matakot masaktan pero di ko sinasabing manakit ka na ng mga babae dahil malay mo yung 1st and last na pala makilala mo. haha i mean mag seryoso ka pero wag kang matakot masaktan normal lang sa pagibig yun.

másáráp mag mahal bro kung gusto mo talaga o baka naman gusto mo din naman kase maging Bachelor lang talaga (tumandang binata). Straight ka man or Bisexual it doesn't matter, maraming ituturo sayo ang pagibig na tutulong sayo para matuto sa buhay.
 
hello ulit, salamat po sa inyong lahat na nagbigay ng encouragement at sa wakas naka pagbigay din ako ng chocolate sa babeng gusto ko, at nakakatuwa kasi titanong ko sya kung mahilig sya sa matatamis, nag oo naman sya at ayun napasaya ko sya sa munting regalo.

sana mabigyan nyo pa ako ng next move, kasi medyo nahihiya parin ako na kausapin sya sa harap ng ibang tao, lalo na at nakikita ng iba kong mga katrabaho

muli salamat ng marami :)
 
hello ulit, salamat po sa inyong lahat na nagbigay ng encouragement at sa wakas naka pagbigay din ako ng chocolate sa babeng gusto ko, at nakakatuwa kasi titanong ko sya kung mahilig sya sa matatamis, nag oo naman sya at ayun napasaya ko sya sa munting regalo.

sana mabigyan nyo pa ako ng next move, kasi medyo nahihiya parin ako na kausapin sya sa harap ng ibang tao, lalo na at nakikita ng iba kong mga katrabaho

muli salamat ng marami :)
add her on fb, build a friendship muna at kung tingin mo masyado sya mataas para sayo, tuloy mo pa rin kase malay mo gusto ka rin nya
 
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