7 Kinds of Love

[Kaplok Kaplok]

one of the reason we end up in the wrong relationships; make wrong assumption and unhealthy expectations; or maybe have a hard time formulating an advice to a friend about their love problems is; the failure to know the different kinds of love.

In a society where we can't distinguish the difference, and where we lump 'love' as one thing, making love such a vague thing, we often end up in frustration, discontent, and have an unhappy outlook on love. We might even create wrong conclusions about 'what went wrong' and we end up just doing the same mistake over again.

Here is the seven kind of love put together to us by Greek philosophers of the past, that might help us..

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1. Eros – Romantic, Passionate Love (Of the Body)​

This is a non-committed kind of love. We often feel this towards a person who is conventionally attractive to your current culture, or someone willing to offer you a physical experience. Common examples of this love:
a- a fubu
b- a sensual worker
c- an idol cornstar or e-girl.

2. Philia – Affectionate, Friendly Love​

This is an affectionate love for your equals, where you want the best for this person. It can also be called platonic love. Common example of this are:
a- a close 'bestfriend'
b- a close sibling
c- a celebrity idol

3. Storge – Unconditional, Familial Love​

Like mentioned on the title here, it is an unconditional love wherein one party does not expect anything in return. Often it is one-sided. Oftenly, it also includes a sense of duty in taking care of the subject.
a- parent to children
b- owner to pet

4. Agape – Selfless, Universal Love​

This kind of love was once thought of as 'the highest form of love'. Similar to Storge, Agape is also unconditional, but the difference is, Agape is not associated with familial duty. This can only be attained by few in a specific mindset. It could be so strong that one is capable of giving his/her life. Examples:
a- Jesus' love
b- a heroic citizen to his/her country
c- a philanthropist to the poor
d- an altruistic person

5. Ludus – Playful, Flirtatious Love​

This kind of love can best be discribed as the infatuation phase of love. It does not demand commital, and does not necessarily need to evolve into a 'higher' form. Examples can be found in:
a- a crush
b- a friendly flirtatious acquaintance
c- professional flirting

6. Pragma – Committed, Long-Lasting Love​

This kind of love is more rooted on the practicality of commitment. It can also coexist with a different form of love, but the most defining trait is that it is more grounded in social, financial, political, professional, religious, cultural, or procreational reasons. It may sound selfish specially if romanticsm ideology is adapted, but yes, it is still love nonetheless.
Most people really contemplate marriage around this kind of love, but they would pretend it is another kind of love because of negative ideas attached to it.

7. Philautia – Self Love​

This is self explanatory. This love is also important, as long as it is in proper dose. Too much can lead to vanity, narcissism and greed. It can even hinder a person's ability to love another. It can easily lead to loneliness and depression.

But when adapted in proper doses, it allows someone to negotiate all other forms of love in a healthier manner and with a positive outlook on love.


Thank you for reading

 

[RoboPinkieSwear]

Love love love.... swerte lang kung ang makatuluyan is mahal mo, mahal ka at parang best friend mo na rin long live mga ka love birds!

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

Love love love.... swerte lang kung ang makatuluyan is mahal mo, mahal ka at parang best friend mo na rin long live mga ka love birds!

Sa tunay na buhay, impossible magmahal ng isang tao na magkasabay ang magkaibang kind of love. Possible lang mag switch from one mode to another indefinitely.

So ang pinaka malapit sa ideal mo is someone na kaya mo mahalin in different kind of love. The more the better.

 

[Charles Manson]

Di ako agree dito

"Eros – Romantic, Passionate Love"​

Hinde to love , isa lang to plain lust

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

Di ako agree dito

"Eros – Romantic, Passionate Love"​

Hinde to love , isa lang to plain lust

If based on romanticsm ideology combined with religious propaganda, yan tlga magiging conclusion natin even if mag deconvert tayo. Pero if eros was never demonized, I dont think it would be negatively viewed as we normally do now. Just like dolphins, human would naturally view it as a positive social interaction.

 

[Asherah Goddess]

Yung number 1 , ang pagkakaintindi ko ay noon unang panahon ng ancient Egypt po ay ganyan po sila pero it considered as a norms. Iyan ang type of love dati-rati. Of course, wala pang panahon ng mga Judeo-Christian. Naalala ko lang po iyon ha? Nang meron ako napanood about documentary ng ancient Egypt. Meron natagpuan ang mga archeologist about love letter from a guy to a girl and doon sa nakasulat na love letter ay puros pini-praise niya ang bawat sulok ng katawan ng girl............ as far as I remember , asawa niya ata iyon.

Alam niyo iyon? Hehehe...... meron kase dopamine ang seks. Yung tipong iba ang feeling basta , iba ang feeling as in na kapag attach na ang isang tao sa katawan ng naka-seks ay parang ang hirap ng pakawalan - parang ganun? Meron something positive feeling na makukuhanan from seks and no wonder talaga , iyon ang "powerful charm" ng mga babae noon unang panahon. I meant dati ha? Ngayon ay hindi na po. Yung seks noon unang panahon ay considered social norms po e kaya....... walang malice.

Ngayon siyempre , considered na.... ahem.... ahem.... considered na demonized na po siya talaga. Pagkatapos ang panahon ng mga babae ngayon ay hindi kailangan ibigay ang katawan kahit kani-kanino. Same din ito sa lalake pero mas mabigat sa babae ever since naging a gateway-to-hell na ang seks po.

Tipong male and female are both pure without seks at mag-seseks lamang kapag ikinasal sa church under ng supervision ng "God". Ganito na po ang normal natin ngayon.
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[PHC-jhenro]

sana all lifetime na